Entering Onto The Straight Path Of Islam

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Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem

“Asalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh”

Entering onto “The Straight Path Of Islam ”

As Written By

Brother Salim Muhamad Bilal Butler (Kiwi Muslim Revert)



It Was To Be To The Start Of A Most Beautiful Journey

It was on Television during the evening News that I witnessed Cat Stevens (Yusuf Islam) leave his singing career, giving it all up for Islam, this was my very first encounter of Islam and Muslims, in no way was I ever to know what Allah (SWT) had install for me.

As time passed and life became complicated through adulthood, I would always wonder what life was and why I was put here, what was my part in this vast World and would I pass the test put to each and every one of us in time or at least before I was laid to rest, where would I take myself and would I hurt anyone alone the way, if so, how would I repair what I broke?

Many questions continued to haunt me throughout my youthful years until I could take it no more, I needed answers and fast.

Here are some questions that were confronting me when I was younger and before I had any idea I was to be chosen to be a Practicing Muslim, Alhumdulillah...”All praises go to Allah (SWT) alone for Granting me this chance to repent and show my honest love for Him”

Whilst growing up on Easter eggs and Christmas puddings, (usually drenched in cherry…this being the sponge pudding) I used to sit and wonder why we are always sitting there each year scoffing our mouths until we can eat no more, in remembrance of what Isa (Jesus) did for us.

Why should we be eating? Shouldn’t we be Fasting instead to show our compassion for this Holy Man called Isa? (Jesus)

Every year, I thought more and more about this and many more questions that were confronting me constantly came into my head, with the need for the answers.

Never did I ever truly believe that “God” had a son or anything connected to Him, I never agreed with this term, why would God belittle Himself be Creating something the same as Him in us, He has given us life and if Jesus was God, then why was he Praying to God? Thinking about this one must be positive with insight in itself to consider and respect through devotional Prayer to Allah (SWT) alone.

I always believed that we were the sons and daughters of Adam, but Created by God.

I used to never like seeing pictures of Jesus and other Prophets as it is not good to emphasize what a person looks like by the message they bring, as they are Messengers of God, not the Message itself, Allah (SWT) only gave to each of His Prophets Miracles so to help those out of faith to be guided righteously into the way of Islam, this was not done by trickery, only by the divine and most power only Allah (SWT) alone can bestow on His Servants when He chooses.

The message is what’s important here.

Whenever I read from the Bible, it never explained the harsh realities of what your actions could do and/or what it will do for/against you on the “Day of Resurrection & Judgment”

Nor did it give you dates, full names, (Not just a first name basis, like Paul or Luke, where is the family name and where - did they originate from?) sites, explanations for the scriptures written, witnesses to the writing of those scriptures, it seemed to always miss quote itself be saying something in the next sentence or chapter, that wronged what it had just made right, also, how can there be an old testament and then a new testament, I clearly see that many people now matter what state of mind they are in, this being without ablution and unwashed hands go and touch and read the Bible, if this was such a Holy book with the word of God within its covers, why not treat it as the Muslims treat the Holy Qur’an, nothing upon the Holy Qur’an has been altered or changed whatsoever since its creation.

I experimented on different parts of Religion, I went to the Catholic Church, and I did not like what it taught me. May my Father forgive me for this as he was Catholic.

An example of this being… How can a fellow (equal) Human be asking for forgiveness from another (equal) Human? Doesn’t that destroy what power God has and doesn’t that pull God down to our small level of standards? God is our creator; He is not of us, He is Exalted & Most High.

And how can the Church start changing the written rules to suit them? Like accepting Homosexuals as their Ministers, does not the Holy Book state that Homosexuality is forbidden? (Well it is) also gay weddings, man marrying to another man, a woman marrying to another woman and this is in the eyes of God too, Astagfirullah.

Next was the Anglican Church…no! Then the Baptist Church, well, this I stayed at for close to a year and a half, I was also attending the Youth Group as well. I was nineteen years old then, I stayed with them as they had some good morals.

But from out of the blue, I started to feel rather “sick” inside whenever I would attend Sunday Mass, I started to miss Church gatherings, and then I stopped all together.

Then I got into the “Rebelling” phase. I started to drink Alcohol, (I became a Bar Tender) I smoked Marijuana, I took LSD (Acid Trips) and I went on the most wildly magical trips on Mushrooms.

This went on every day for about three years, until one day…I just stopped.

About a year later I went into some “New Age” and “Spiritual” courses, I also attended a “Channelling” seminar.

This was rather scary to watch, as when one of the people who were taking the course said “he’ll be out soon”

I thought, oh? Obviously the main speaker will be coming out to talk soon, but I was somewhat wrong to assume that.

As soon as I could, someone to the right of my vision started to shake and quiver in her seat. I thought straight away that this person was having some sort an attack and I went to get up to help, but I was then asked to find my seat again.

This was rather odd to me, but I did sit down, then this woman stopped shaking, her head hanging into her chest, started to make some weird noises, then she raised her head…ahhhhh.

To this day, I will never forget the image I saw. She looked “possessed” like Shaitan had entered her.

Then she, well, he, umm, it spoke….it was hideous, the whole room felt so “evil” I got up and left straight away.

Many questions continued to haunt me after that and throughout my youthful years until I could take it no more, I needed answers and fast.

How I Came To Accept Islam

It was now late July 1998 and I went to my good friend’s home.

I have known Mohammed Yusuf Sahim (Yusuf Hopkins) for close to eight years at this stage.

He is also a New Zealand born Brother Alhumdulillah.

Well, we were sitting there talking when all of a sudden he said; I have to go and do my Prayer.

I looked at him and said Prayer? I started to laugh a little, as last time I had seen Shane, he had thrown a dozen beers at my feet and said “Thirsty”

I asked him what had happened. He smiled and said that he had a change in Faith and that he had accepted Islam and he is now a practicing Muslim.

I just couldn’t grasp it, through my unforeseen ignorance, but I politely smiled back at him.

The next time I came around and he went to do Prayer, I asked him if I could come up and watch, plus listen in, he smiled and told me to lead the way.

Shane and I have been friends for so long, so I think this is why he felt safe in showing me the way of Islam & Prayer.

As I waited for Shane to finish doing Wudhu, (Ablution) I looked around his room; there were all these posters with Arabic scriptures on them. I could not believe that he had changed so dramatically in such a short time.

Well, he was soon doing Prayer; I remember it being Al-Salat Maghrib. As he started to do the Farz, I said wow! As to hear Arabic being spoken from a friend you used to “Party Hard” with, kind of shocked me somewhat.

Once he had finished doing his Prayers, I had a thousand questions lined up for him.

But he said I will answer what I can soon, now I will read from the Holy Qur’an. So I laid there on the bed, whilst Shane sat knelling on his mat.

One of the Sura’s Shane read was “Ya-Sin” this Sura gave me such an outlook upon the Almighty Power Allah (SWT) has over us and the chapter answered a few of my questions that were still lingering in me.

We both sat and talked for what must have been about three hours, in between which Shane did Al-Salat Isha.

That night I could not sleep one bit, more and more questions arose and I just had to find the answers.

It was then I started to realize that I was going into some form of cross roads within my life, I started to have wild flashbacks come flying into my face, it was kind of scary, but as they came at me, they faded, then disappeared.

About three weeks later, I quit my Bar Tending job and got employment with Group 4 Security, being stationed Full time at Wellington City Council.

The next time I visited Shane, I asked him what I needed to do to become a true believer in Islamic monotheism.

He just smiled and said “Alhumdulillah”

I put forward all the questions I had written down earlier.

With all the questions and all the research I did, not once did I have any “ill-feeling” in the response and the answers/explanations given back to me.

It Was Time For Me To Declare The Shahadah

"Ashadualla illahaillallah, wa ash haduanna Muhammadar rasulullah"

The English translation: "I bear witness that there is no deity worthy to be worshipped but Allah (SWT) and I bear witness the Muhammad (PBUH) is His Servant and Messenger.''

It was on the 30th of August 1998 I accepted Islam whole heartedly.

It was on the 11th December 1998 that I had learnt Al-Fatiha from heart.

It was on the 31st March 2002 I had my Nikka (Marriage) in Kuala Lumpur to a most beautiful Malay Muslima.

It was on the 3rd July 2003 that baby Ilyas Salim Butler was born.

To this day I only know five Sura’s, almost six, as spoken in Arabic that is, but I am still learning and I love this One Religion of Islam.

Alhumdulillah to Allah (SWT) alone for His Guidance and Patience with me, for He knows all and He knew where I was heading to and where I had come from.

All Praises go to Allah (SWT) alone. “Allah Hu Akbar” (Arabic word for Allah is Great)

Before becoming a believer in the Oneness of Allah (SWT) I had so many unresolved issues in my life, I was addicted to playing the Poker Machines, I Drank, I Smoked, I used to Swear, I never spoke to my Mother and I thought of myself as a failure. On a couple of earlier occasions I had tried to commit suicide through slicing my wrists open with knives.

Within three days of being a practicing Muslim…all those failed feelings decreased and died.

I no longer practice any of the above “Bad Habits” except the odd swear word through being put into the corner with anger, the answer to which is to not lose my temper through basic mediation skills of which I have taken up and practice; this issue and the issue of women (my involvement in their beauty) was the most challenging of the list of complications I had put into my previous life.

About a year and a bit before I was introduced to Islam and I accepted it whole heartily, without any questions whatsoever from within my heart
I tried committing suicide and to this day I still bare the scares of my earlier insecurities both on my wrists and in my heart.

Every day I look deeply at those scares and remember just what I was like then, to what I have become now, and through the support and unconditional Love and Divine Guidance from Allah (SWT) alone I feel stronger.

All praises go to the one and only GOD, this being Allah, (SWT) Allah Hu Akbar.

My Mother is a strong believer in Christian ways, my *Father was of the Catholic belief, and the rest of my family is of either a spiritual belief or of no fixed belief at all.

*Although my Father “John Patrick Butler” was brought up in a Catholic Manner, he was not all sure as to what he wanted, I know he believed in “One God” but due to being angry toward those whom taught him about God, he left that Faith and went it alone, he was a proud Father whom loved his children equally and as long as you had a zing for life and direction upon what goals you had in mind, he was happy and accepting toward you.

To tell my Father that I had accepted the life of Islam was to be the hardest moment I have ever had to go through.

I actually made myself tell him in a crowded shopping mall for fear of him getting mad at me or even worse, hitting me.

When I told my father what I had done and how my beliefs had changed for the best, my eyes were filled with tears, it was so hard to do; But my father just looked at me after hearing what I had to say and he laughed, I was quite upset to see him do such an ignorant thing.

He apologized to me, with only to say how incredibly proud of me he was and that he was shocked to see that I still believed in “GOD”

He was also so proud of the fact that I was changing my entire life around my chosen Religion, where in the past I would not have cared one bit.

My Father has always prided himself in a Religious way; until later on in his life; I can remember my Mother and my Father having heated discussions about which belief the children would be brought up as, this being as Christian or Catholic belief.

Well, both my Parents were so incredibly upset and hurt with each other that they didn’t really talk to one another for what seemed to be such long periods of time to me.

It kind of makes me laugh a bit now, as it all means nothing to me; their arguments were in vein as I am now a “Very Proud Muslim”

I am not saying that I am some “Perfect Practicing Muslim” Not at all, as with the hours of my employment in a previous job; I started at 11:00am right through to 11:00pm. (12 hours per day)

I always made the effort to do all my Prayers before midnight, but this was hard as I walked through the front door to my home at 11:45pm, but I did my best, as it is not good to rush Prayers, so long as your intentions (Nyat) are there to get them done, that is all that matters and of course that you perform them from your heart always.

My hours of work then were on a four days on four days of routine, I did 48 hours a week in work; I worked at the Wellington City Council in the Security & Audit Division; but now I work at Corporate Cabs and work from 6:00am until 2:00pm, Monday through to Friday, the only draw back now is not making it to Jumah Prayer, but Allah (SWT) knows of my intention in being present among the ranks.

So with all those previous hours of work, it is so hard to do all 5 prayers each day, during the days in question…my intention is to do them on time, but when I am on my days at work, I only get to do Prayer Al-Salat Fajr at the correct time, that is all, but with the rest, well they are late, one MUST know that it is not encouraged to leave all the daily Payers until the last part of the day, it is shunned upon by Allah (SWT) if you choose to leave your Salat to the last minute and/or to the last part of the day to have them all done under the one Wudhu, Prayers are set out at the times are for very important reasons, so DO your Prayers at those times. For additional information on why Prayers are performed at the times they are, consult your local Imam, an Islamic Centre or at least a Practicing Muslim.

As at work, they do not allow me to stop to do Prayers, I have asked so many times for this to be accepted.

But on my days off, I do all five Prayers…Fajr, Zohr, Asr, Maghrib and Isha Alhumdulillah.

In my last job I started work at 6:00am through to 2:00pm, this was perfect as I would never be late for Salat, no matter what part of the year it was, the only constant issue I had was attending Jumah Salat of which I was never allowed to practice as I worked within a Corporate Call Centre and the hours of lunch were set on a daily roster, yea Allah (SWT) knows of my intentions to perform my Jumah Salat each week.

I have since departed that career to find something I enjoy and of which can give back to me the minimal requests that are so important to a Muslim.

It could look as being very frustrating indeed to practice Islam in New Zealand as it is not recognized as being the countries base Religion, so it is vitally important to meet with any Muslim you can, so to make friends, build on your Iman and wisdom, also to learn of any Islamic groups and Muslim communities nearby; thus to bring the Ummah together as ordained.

Christianity is the given native Religion in New Zealand, as I am still unsure as to how many Christians actually practice their Religion every day here in New Zealand, but who am I to judge anyway; as unfortunately there are Muslims of whom say they are of Islam, yet fail to practice what is ordained of them to practice on a daily basis, may Allah (SWT) guide them back to where they came from, Ameen.

I am not putting Christianity down; I am only questioning it, as I used to be a so-called practicing Christian.

Since I have become a “true believer” in the one and only Religion of Islam and total belief in Allah (SWT) alone, my entire life has turned around for the better for all.

I used to never talk to deeply enough with my Mother like a son should always. You know the consequences of this if you never make the effort from your heart to make peace, love and a bond with your Mother whilst both of you are still alive? Your chances of being granted paradise is greatly lessened, Insha Allah. (If God Wills)

Everyone who is born unto this world are meant to be, this is the “Will of Allah” (SWT)

Never let your Parents and/or Family say that you were an accident or not planned.

Allah (SWT) has got a really big plan for you, with a wonderful gift at the end of it, (Paradise) this being if you are good towards Him only as your Creator and do justly things towards others from your heart, Insha Allah (If God Wills) Ameen.

My Mother and I used to never see eye to eye on important issues, I know now it was due to my young age of ignorance and my total lack of respect toward her and the importance of whom she was as my Mother, it was silly when I look back now, as nothing in this world is really ever that bad that you have to hold hatred towards an individual for all of time.

Unless it is Rape or Murder, but even then, you should only but have pity on that person who committed the crime, as Allah (SWT) watches over everything and it is recorded on a clear book, which on “The Day of Resurrection” will be handed to either your right hand or your left and you will have to be answerable to all you used to do.

My Mother and I love each other to pieces now, (As too my Father and I do) we get on so well, and we are now trying to make up for lost time where we were all so selfish and foolish; thus in respect of my Mothers unconditional love and trust upon myself she has made me the executor of her Testimonial Will, she has seen the amazing change I have made within my life and knows without a doubt that I will look after her interests in a most Islamic manner; whilst respecting her chosen Faith in Christianity and that I will do all I can to prevent backbiting being initiated within the ranks upon her departure, for she will be unable to defend her rights once she has been given back to the Earth in death.

To be honest with you, only Allah (SWT) knows whether you will be a believer or not, whether you are brought into being a practicing Muslim at a very early age or if you choose to change to Islam and practice being a Muslim later on in life.

I think of the unconditional love I hold so dear toward my Father, in the time I had openly accepted Islam and practiced with my Father’s blessings) it to the day he passed away, I managed to gain time and love lost through complete devotion to Allah, (SWT) I thank Allah (SWT) for this as if I had not been chosen for acceptance toward Islam through Allah (SWT) alone, where would I have been in my relationship with my Father, nowhere!

My Father died of Cancer in the early hours of November 21st 2002, he was buried on the 23rd November 2002; May Allah (SWT) forgives my Father of all his wrongdoings within his short life and raises him up to Jannah, Ameen.

The date of the 21st November is special for my Wife and I as Hariaty first made contact with myself on the 21st November 1999 and I replied her letter on the 23rd November 1999, this really makes me think of Allah (SWT) and the power He has over all things upon our lives, of all the dates to pass away on my dearest Father is given this date, Allah Hu Akbar.

In the wake of my Fathers death, my beloved Wife Hariaty Binti Abu Hassan gave birth to Ilyas Salim Butler on the 3rd July 2003 at 2:00pm.

”Some Of What I Have Learned & Practice To This Day”


With regards to taking in any form of intoxicates* and dancing, it is not allowed (period) in a Muslim to do such things.

*Intoxicants meaning: Anything that would cause the users mind and body to be influenced and altered, thus making your judgment impaired and indecisive. (Drunk, stoned, doped or incapacitated)

I know this may seem hard to understand, but a person has to think about what happens to ones senses and mind when they have had some form of intoxicant, for example: Alcohol and/or Marijuana in their system, I know, as I used to both smoke and drink before becoming a Practicing Muslim.

I know what I was like before I accepted Islam, I was a mess, I had many bad and dirty thoughts of what sexual things I wanted from a woman, now I have control over such thoughts and if they come to mind, I know how to clear my I have only but utmost respects for woman, not only for their gender, but also for their personalities and their most important role in our Society.

Also with dancing, as much as I loved dancing in the past, this causes people to feel emotions of well, hormonal urges when dancing with someone close. (of the opposite gender) so in Islam it is not allowed, this also covers singing (out loud) by Muslim woman in this case, singing is forbidden for woman, there is exception which is described as follows...Cat Stevens (now called Yusuf Islam) was a famous performer and singer, but as soon as he excepted Islam whole heartily he put a stop to his singing career, as it is not allowed in Islamic monotheism to sing, except unless it is in the cause of Allah (SWT) and in the case of teaching, also when it is by the man only when calling Azaan or calling out some form of Sura from the Holy Qur’an.

With regards to the drinking and consuming of intoxicants of all kinds, this was stopped for Muslims some time ago as some Muslims used to be somewhat “under the weather being doped” and miss their daily five Prayers and/or they used to perform their Prayers under the influence of what intoxicant they were on at the time, thus taking their focus and love for Allah away somewhat, also with banning the consumption of such intoxicants and drugs into ones body, this lessens the change of family violence & marriage/family break-ups.

It is so important for us Muslim’s to have clean and pure thoughts and feelings when it comes time to Pray to Allah. (Allah mean’s “One God”)

We have to make sure that when doing Prayers (Speaking in Arabic) we make the Prayer as perfect as possible, as this shows your respect and love to Allah (SWT) that you want to please him in any way you can with your devotion toward him, it can be hard as I find that as soon as I have commenced my Farz, I instantly get an itchy nose, this always seems to happen to me, but I continue to focus as to me, this is just another test bestowed upon me by Allah. (SWT)

We as Muslim’s believe that there is only one God, this being Allah. (SWT)

We believe that He is the Sole Creator of all the Heavens and of the Earth and all that exists, (Human and Jinn alike) we do not believe that he has any such associates of any kind or form.

Allah (SWT) does not have a Mother and He does not have a Father, He does not have any Children let alone a son called Isa. (Arabic word for Jesus)

Isa was/is a Prophet and also a son of Adam, he will be coming back to us again, just before the Day of Judgment as a warning to those who used to look upon him as the Son of God and to those who Worshiped the Cross as a reminder of (him) Jesus (Isa) having been Crucified upon it, also for making such drawings of his so-called image, but us Muslims know better, we know that it was Judas whom was Crucified upon the Cross and that Jesus (Isa) is alive up in Paradise.

We as Humans are not the sons and daughters of Allah (SWT) we are His Servants only and we are the sons and daughters of Adam, who was also created by Allah. (SWT)

We (as Muslims and Non-Muslims alike) have been put upon this Earth to give Prayer and ask for forgiveness for our sins, we are also to cultivate and look after this Earth, (Allah’s (SWT) creation) not destroy it with pollution and sin, like we have done and are still doing to this very day, it’s the very same with our own bodies, we must take great care of them, for they are also the Property of Allah (SWT) and to him they shall return in what state you left them as.

We Pray daily to show our love and respects for Allah (SWT) alone.

Allah (SWT) is Oft Forgiving and Most Merciful toward us as His Servants, just as long as if you have and are always remembering Him with every hour and day that passes and you give Prayer from your heart to Him and love Him unconditionally for He is the “One above All”

Allah (SWT) has provided you with all that you could need and want, He gives you your health, your senses, your love for living, your friends, your family, your employment, thus the means for gaining money to achieve the goals that you so want and need and even to help guide you out from debt, you should always give thanks and praises to Allah (SWT) alone for this with your Prayers. (Five times Daily)

Allah (SWT) has made this life so perfectly indeed, so that with everything that you think and do there will always be two decisions that could come from it.

Everything is 50/50 on your decision upon it and so is your choice to do what you think is “right” from it.

There are two paths that you can choose, usually Humans choose the easier path, which gives them something they desire and lust for at the end of it, this is in a majority of cases the best choice for most whom are grateful to Allah (SWT) but there are many out there who choose the easier path and obtain what they want and give no such thought of thanks to Allah. (SWT) May He have Mercy upon their souls.

Allah (SWT) has left Shaitan (Arabic word for Satan) to live, (Allah can destroy Shaitan at any time He chooses & Shaitan knows this and he also knows that Allah (SWT) is the One True God) so that Humans will always have this choice, as Allah (SWT) will not seem to be one whom makes His Servants believe in Him because they “have to” this would not be fair now would it?

You can only love something if you have the desire and need to and if Allah (SWT) chooses to open your heart to Him in believing in Islam whole heartily, He will, but there are some out there who will never be able to grasp what truth there is in being a Muslim and a true believer in Allah (SWT) alone.

Nothing in Islam is forced, if it is written that it is one of the requirements of Islamic Monotheism then if you are a true believer, you will accept and practice what is only but asked of you to do and there are very good reasons for why things are in place too, also one will get much reward if you practice what is asked of you from your heart.

For instance, Muslim woman who wear Hijab, (head vale) they are not made to wear them, they are only but asked to wear them, to me a woman looks un-complete and bare when not wearing Hijab, I feel so incredibly proud of a Muslima when I see them wearing Hijab, my Wife always wears hers and this gives me a stronger Iman and sometimes it brings tears of happiness to my eyes, as I could very well imagine just how hard it must be in certain social scenes for my Wife and them to wear it.

The beauty in a woman is in her hair, face, voice, bodily contour and gentleness.

The reason in why Muslim women are asked to wear Hijab is to hide those beautiful attributes that men find so entrancing and sexually desirable.

Even before I became a Muslim Believer, I used (and still do) to find such respect in looking (Even though one should lower their gaze) and being around Muslim woman wearing Hijab* (Even in seeing Catholic & Christian Nuns wearing head vale) as all those humanly desires and wants, (sexually and emotionally) are removed automatically, thus leaving you talking and mixing with an individual person, not just a woman.

*You may have seen on television Muslim women whom are treated so horribly by either their Husband or fellow men within their community… i.e. not being allowed to come out on the open streets alone, wearing clothing that covers all their body, thus only exposing their eyes, being stoned to death, having acid thrown on them, being beaten, being made to stand behind their Husband at a distance when going places and being forced to make love to their Husbands and even not being allowed to laugh or socialize.

Woman are to be respected, most importantly your own Mother and other peoples Mothers, (Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was asked whom is to be the most respected person upon this world and Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said “Your Mother” and it was asked of him, who is the next person to be respected “Your Mother” the very same question was put to Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) again and the answer was “Your Mother” and the next person? “Your Father” Your Mother is the next most important figure under Allah (SWT) as she went through the tremendous pain of giving birth to you, she gave suck to you, she gave up a large part of her life for you and she brought you up, thus providing for you Security, Knowledge, Shelter, Food and Love whilst you grew up and matured.

This is merely a personal conflict with the individual whom is causing this pain and suffering on these women.

Also in some cases, like when the woman is “made to” stay off the streets, wear full body Hijab and not associate with others, this is a Cultural concern/issue* which has nothing to do with what is asked of in the Muslim’s
“Five Pillars of Islam”

*Realistically this issue would be a conflict between the Husband on the Wife, through maybe jealousy.

Well, the Muslim woman in Islam is recognized as being a much respected part of Islam for their role in it.

A Muslim man is to always provide and take constant care of his Wife and Children; the Muslim Woman is to have the highest of respect given, as she is the one whom both males and females originate from, with Allah (SWT) Guidance.

Men and women have been created to complement each other, we cannot live without each other for long, we have to have each other to have that strength intact and we each hold strengths that the opposite sex needs for survival, plus we hold weaknesses that the other sex can help with.

Another thing, one should never question their Parents, nor should one ever raise their voice, ridicule, backbite or raise a hand to them neither, regardless of whether one feel they are right or wrong, one should hold ones feelings and anxieties to oneself and if one needs to talk about it, talk to someone of ones own age, wisdom and gender.

It is never good to back-bite your Parents, Family, Friends and Associates, not even those whom are known enemies to you, as you never know whom Allah (SWT) will put you together with, they may end up being your friend or Lover/Wife or Husband.

Muslims do not believe in having pre-marital relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend) as this only causes heartbreak and confusion within ones soul, nor do we believe in making love before marriage.

Just look at how many woman and men are having children that they do not really want or can take care of, thus providing the children with the correct amount of Love and Security that one needs for a good life.

You are having young girls having babies; this is not what is supposed to be happening here.

Also, you have men whom will only have sex, but take NO responsibility for their actions, thus leaving the poor woman to make life changing decisions, decisions that are beyond a woman whom is too young to make any such decision at that tender age.

Also, with men, they have a strong sexual drive at the teenage years of their life, so to be around woman in this sense is to surely cause intercourse, thus sexual exploitations to happen at an early age.

It is somewhat lessened due to Allah (SWT) creating each gender to have sexual peaks at different stages of our lives.

When a young man is sexually frustrated and “so-called” needs to have such release from his body in the form of sexual intercourse, he will do almost anything he can do achieve this, I know, as I was in this tragic state when I was young and a non-believer in Islamic Monotheism.

Men are like a kind of Predator to woman when they are young and sexually driven by their hormones.

Also if one is rejected by someone of the opposite sex, it grows on them, some can handle such emotions, but most of us have it scar our lives permanently, thus conditioning our very being.

Some men get frustrated and kind of angry at such rejection and become violent, this is where rape and murder is a permanent feature on our morning and evening papers.

But it is Allah (SWT) Will (Insha Allah) whom He puts together as partners for life. (Husband and Wife)

We spend the first part of our lives trying to be accepted by someone other then our Parents, but in the same way as our Parents did/do this being totally loved and accepted for who we are inside and out.

This is why it has been asked upon for men and woman to wait and marry the one they are truly in love with before any such sexual activity should occur, for that is of the sacred acts.

When you are older you have more control on your body and emotions, so to wait till this part of your life is to only strengthen you now and you’re past, plus to create a positive future for you and your partner.

As if you were to get all tangled up in the “spider web” of rejection, heartache and premature sexual activity that you at a young age still cannot control, then surely you will spend the rest of your life in isolation with unnecessary fears and phobias of times gone by and rejection felt.

We as humans are learning sponges, what we look at, touch, listen to, experience, love, hate, speak, feel, we absorb, this is why we (Allah’s (SWT) Creations) are made to be the highest of the highest in respect to what we are capable of doing and creating for ourselves in order to grow.

But also then made to be the lowest of the lowest as we have such instincts which other creations have not.

Like choice, judgmental feelings, the will to live, the will to die, the will to hate and the will to kill for the sake of killing and the will of revenge. (Just remember that ones will to live will always be stronger then ones will to die)

“Animals kill only for survival, Humans kill because they create hatred within their hearts through the great need to dominate and be controllers of masses, the self righteous minds of children gone by, the blazing saddles of horses raging in battles afar, in the powers that be revenge is by far more the sweeter of success then to lay at your so called enemies feet with your sward laid down before them…is the enemy actually within our own judgmental unchallenged view, living in fear of they neighbour for what they may actually guide you in wisdom toward?”

One aspect of Islam that I first fell in love with is that it is not a single Culture Religion, Islam is “neutral” when it comes to a Cultural aspect, but with this it is made up of almost every Culture and background Ethnic Cultural influences that I have ever seen in any other so-called Religions that I have studied in the past.

I used to be very scared and fearful of approaching other Cultures before I became a Practicing Muslim, but I get rather excited now when I meet a person (whatever the gender is) from another Cultural background.

Allah (SWT) has made us all different and encased us in different shades of skin and in the many different versions of tongue talk for many important reasons.

The main reason would have been to see if “Man” would embrace his fellow Brother and Sister, no matter what the colour of their skin or what language they spoke or what form their body was in.

But here we are destroying what He has created, we as a nation and as a world are turning our backs on what could actually save us all, this being to accept, adapt, promote and grow as a race a Human race.

We only work together through fear of extinction and loss of the material things and those people we hold so dear and close to our hearts.

Humans have become a very selfish race with most people out for themselves, as if it were a lolly scramble.

If we are to be granted by Allah (SWT) to go to Paradise on the Day of Judgment, we have to work with each other from our hearts, not against ourselves, yes we are Judged separately but we are also Judged upon what we were like to other Humans around us also, so be very kind and open hearted to both your friend and to your enemy for Allah (SWT) knows best for us.

Money now means Power in this day and age, this is now the main focus on a majority of Humans to achieve, as if you do not get enough of it, you will be tossed aside to let room for someone whom can gain all this so-called Power.

It is because of these external insecurities of wealth and so-called freedom that we are forgetting about what/who created us and where we are heading, not only as a race, but as individuals, always remember that the Day of Judgment could come at any time; it is all up to Allah (SWT) on when He chooses the Day/Night.

Allah (SWT) is all that we should be focusing on firstly, not ourselves, as only Allah (SWT) can Grant us what else we need and it is Granted to you in a due course of time, all Allah (SWT) asks from us to do is perform “Five Daily Prayers” and show your unconditional Love and Fear toward Him alone, just look what He bestows upon us with every day that you are alive, just think about it if you may…

I was in Fiji a few years ago and I learnt a very valuable lesson whilst being there.

I had hopped onto a bus and it was full of Fijians & Indians, I was a little nervous at first, as I knew nothing of the Fijian & Indian Cultures, I just smiled bravely and to my surprise, I received about 23 full faced smiles back.

A seat was happily cleared and offered to me too.

I felt instantly warm inside, actually to the point of crying, a blessing had been given to those whom had made the effort in smiling from their hearts, the feeling of acceptance was somewhat overwhelming, as here in New Zealand, if you were to smile in that situation, you would have been frowned upon as being weird and under the influence of alcohol/drugs or they would smile just because they felt they had to, not because they wanted to.

What made my bus ride even more wonderful was the fact that everyone was laughing and talking so openly in the bus, even the driver, no one cared about what the other was thinking about them or what they were saying, and to me this was perfect harmony within a “Humane” society.

Well when I got back to new Zealand and hopped on the bus and smiled (remembering my wonderful experience in Fiji) I decided to focus on just one person and that person looked at me and was a little unsure at first, but when he looked into my eyes and saw total honestly behind my intentions, he gave out the most beautiful ear to ear smile.

We ended up talking soon afterwards, Alhumdulillah. (All Praises go to Allah (SWT) alone for this lesson on me)

Islam (which means peace and surrendering into Islam in Arabic) was created by Allah (SWT) alone to give us all a sense of good will and knowledge that we all “can” live in harmony, just as long as we focus on the basis of what Islam covers in whole.

To be a Practicing Muslim is not hard, as if you have totally embraced Islam, this would be classed as more of a life style improvement rather then an exercise or job to be done five times daily.

You have to love Allah (SWT) alone but also fear Him with all that you have been Created to be, His Servant.


“Always Base Your Life Around Your Religion And Not Your Religion Around Your Life”


Everyone is born a Muslim; it is the choice of the parents from birth as to where they will guide you from then until sixteen years of age and then it is up to the individual to make the life changing choice.

Allah (SWT) is so good to you in so many ways; He will always provide you with clean air, water, food, your sanity, your eye sight, and your limbs working properly, unless He alone has other plans for you in this life everyone has a different lesson to learn.

He will also give you the gift of speech, the thoughts within your mind, He will Grant you Abundance and He will most always give you a second chance at everything, Insha Allah.

You know that quick thought you have in your mind, just before you do something you should not…think about it…Who is watching over you constantly? There is never just you in a room, Allah (SWT) is there also, when you are hiding, Allah (SWT) is there, when you are committing wonderful deeds upon others, giving Zakat, doing Prayers, talking about others, and sinning…Allah (SWT) is there, there is no hiding at all from our Creator, for you should always be mindful of whom created you and brought you here, Allah (SWT) is All Seer, All Witness to All that you say and do.

You know the burning feeling you have in your heart when you have done something very bad? Again think about it.

You know that shivering feeling you have, like something is shaking you? Do you feel a strong presence?

Even when you feel this surge of happiness rush throughout your entire body…Think of Allah, (SWT) for He Granted you this wonderful sensation.

Love comes directly from Allah. (SWT) Hurt and Pain comes from Humans through Shaitan. (Satan)

All my friends who I used to Drink and Smoke with all know that I have turned to Islam, a lot of them I have lost contact with, I pray so much to have contact with them again, just so that they may see the vast improvement within my life and how I live it with Allah (SWT) constantly in my heart and mind.

Some of them used to ask me when I will stop this “Phase in my life” and get back into being the “James” that they all know and love, I just smile and say…”You to yours and me to mine” I still am “James” but I now believe in Allah (SWT) and Practice Islamic Monotheism.

They all respect this and in a way, they are all very proud of me, but to be frank with you, the only “One” that I want to be happy and proud of me is Allah. (SWT)

This world’s only a place of preparation for the next.

Some Non-Believers would look at this world as being a “Paradise” as everything is here to “Lap it Up” and “Party Hard” and take everything from others.

But we as Muslims look at this world as solely a place to Worship, plus asking for Guidance, Mercy and Forgiveness to Allah (SWT) alone for our sin’s and any wrongdoings that may come of us as individuals and as a family unit as well collectively.

Not a lot of Humans seem to think about what will become of them do they??

But that Day of Reckoning will come to us ALL and this will happen just when we least expect it to.

This being when the “Trumpet is Blown” and the sky opens up and the living unbelievers scatter to find refuge, the Muslim Believers all fall down when the gentle winds from Allah (SWT) blow throughout the lands, laying “all” Muslims to “rest” thus leaving the “unbelievers” to go through a painful torment, everything and everyone will see death at this time; It will be that day that the Believers and the Unbelievers will be split apart from each other.

It will also be of that day that your worst fear of Allah (SWT) will come out.

And it will be then that you get to see what Allah (SWT) is truly capable of doing, whether it is good or bad, but it will always be on reflect to what you used to do, for Allah (SWT) is always fair in His judgment on us. (Nothing will be wronged - of you on that day)

Allah (SWT) will always provide for everyone on this Earth if He so wishes, but this world is only of a short time…Paradise is forever.

It is for us Humans to show compassion for one another, to give Zakat (Arabic word for giving money to the poor and show some form of charity (on a daily scene if able) unto those needy) if you are financially and physically able.

We “Mortal Humans” look at life as such a long drawn out process of finding relief at any corner we can and we will always try to “cut” corners if we are able, it is within our nature to do so as it is all part of learning.

But always remember “who” is watching you and “who” also knows your deepest intentions.

It is written in the Hadith that there will be an evil force that will become rampant throughout the world that will have only “one eye” facing at you it will be in abundance and it will be available almost anywhere you go.

It will ultimately be used as the tool for War, Crime and Violence.

To me this looks and sounds very much like Computers, don’t take what I said there as confirmed, it is just a thought.

Our real focus on this Earth is to give praises and devotions to the Almighty, All Merciful Allah. (SWT)

It is only the gifts that Allah (SWT) has bestowed to us that have drawn some away from the truth. (Greed)

Tell me, have you ever had a loved one, whether it was a Family member or a Friend die suddenly? Through an accident or ill-health right out of the blue?

I have and so have millions of others out there.

Doesn’t this make you sit and think about the “True Power” Allah (SWT) have over us? Some times He will just wipe someone off this Earth who is dear to all our hearts, we all ask why? Why to this person? They were so good and did Righteous deeds towards others, they were a “True Believer” how could this happen.

But Allah (SWT) has a plan, a plan for everything and everyone, for He is our Supreme Creator and the Only Creator of the Heavens and the Earth and all that Exists, both Human and Jinn alike, Masha Allah.

Since becoming a Muslim, I have got to meet some very wealthy fellow practicing Muslims, but I must say this about them, they are not all “toffee nosed” or ignorant towards those of us whom are not in there financial level of achievement, to be honest, they are such giving and warm people indeed, Alhumdulillah.

You see with Islam, it is okay to be “well off” but it is not good to be selfish towards those whom are in hunger or are in need of financial help or shelter, this is where Zakat comes into focus, to give (from your heart) to the poor is one of the “Five Pillars of Islam”

If everyone in this world gave Zakat (whether it be once a year or throughout the year, every year) the world would not be in such “term oil” as it is now, there is more then enough money for “all” Humans to be both well off and/or comfortably off, thus being able to provide for their families and friends.

I have not yet met a selfish Muslim, where with lots of Non-Believers of Islam, well, just look around at the world will you, okay, there are Millions of religious folk out there whom are so very kind and generous toward any person, whom I am on about of the “Evil Doers” of this world!

Okay, you do have those Muslim Brothers and Sisters from Saudi Arabia & the Middle East whom own Oil.

But it is Allah’s (SWT) Choice to allow them this, as they will not be greedy with it, that is if the individuals truly believe in the oneness of Allah, (SWT) they will always be fair in what they choose to do with it and the wealth that comes from it. (Zakat & Loving thy Neighbour and Bestowing Money into helping the Community)

But on the other hand, Look at the fact the in Texas, America, they also have Oil, and most of them are very greedy with it and they all show off all their money, this being the fact that this is a Non-Muslim State and somewhat a Raciest State as well. (Being of the Southern Part of the United States of America)

Yes it is okay to enjoy this world that Allah (SWT) has provided for us, but there is a fine line drawn between enjoying its pleasures and taking advantage of the pleasures provided for our survival and well being.

Allah (SWT) has designed it this way for a lot of major reason’s, one big reason is to siphon out the Good from the Bad, to also give those people out there a “choice” and all things in this world are split into a two choice margin.

It is very easy to see good from bad, just stand back and watch and listen, this is why we have been Created with two eyes, two ears and one mouth…think about it.

Please remember…Fear Allah (SWT) and all the Power He has and what He is capable of doing with it, for He knows all that you reveal and all that you conceal within your heart and mind.

But also love Allah (SWT) alone, as He is most willing to show His Mercy, Give Blessings and abundance before He would ever want to show His Anger upon His Servants.

So show your unconditional Love and Pay your Respects to Him every day, for it is Him who raises you out of your bed every morning, it is He who puts the air into your lungs, it is He who causes the clean blood to rush forth around your body and it is He who Grants you Health.

Please, never let pity and ignorance of others stop you from Practicing what you so Believe and Love…Be Proud and stand up for what you Believe, this being in the one and only Allah. (SWT)

He has power over all His creations and in one day to come of His choice, it will all be brought back to Him.

“Be Faithful To The One Creator Of The Heavens And The Earth Oh Servant Of Allah (SWT)”

“Be Gentle, Be Kind, Prostrate Yourselves In Prayer And Be The Giving Soul That Allah (SWT) Created And Intended You To Be”

“Do Not Be Influenced By Those Who Wish To Stray From The Straight Path And Are Clearly Headless Of All The Signs That Have Been Brought Unto Mankind To Reflect Upon As Their Day Will Come And It Will Be Unto Allah (SWT) That They Will All Be Accountable For Not Adhering To Their Lord And Creator For All They Used To Do”

“My Humble Perception Toward Partnership, Love, Marriage & Fatherhood”

Love is all about understanding and being there unconditionally for the other not just when you wish to but also when you are needed to by the other no matter what the time of day and/or night.

You are not two halves making up a whole, you are two separate individuals making up a couple, a couple that work as one team and are there for each other defending each other and taking care of each other, not only in a Physical form, but also in a Religious and Emotional form as well.

Sometimes you have to be just a listener to your loved one and this is not as easy as it seems especially when the topic of your partner is you and she is venting off her chest what she thinks of your opinion and on the way you do things, this to me is about the hardest part in a relationship as you have to know that not everyone in this big old world agrees with you on what you think and believe is to be true and what's more, you have to just sit there all quiet knowing that this person in front of you really does hold a lot of love for you regardless of what is taking place.

In a relationship you have to take the good with the bad, you are two persons with totally different upbringings, different values and in my case different cultures as well, so you really have to be a good thinker and listener and you have to try not to take everything personally, as most of the time it is not meant this way at all, I find this hard to practice at times as well.

A Piece Of Wisdom: Do not bring up each others past especially when it has to do with the others previous partners, if this partner has had a previous experience with another person, as I know for sure that this puts a nasty edge on your future with the present situation, if this occurs you have to be a very good mediator at "Conflict Resolution"

This was one of the biggest mistakes I have ever had to go through, people seem to find love through sex over here, but I have now learned that love is found in a form so different to that kind of thing, making love is a final part of getting to love a person once married.

I have found that talking and getting to know my Wife, I have gotten to know a part of a woman I had never realized existed and I fall to my feet with such joyful and immense happiness within myself having been granted the chance of learning this of my lovely Wife, she really is such an amazing woman, whom I adore so much with every beat of my heart and with every day that passes being with having her within my life, All Praises go to Allah (SWT) for this on me.

I look at a past situation I was faced with before accepting Islam and I think of many things within this situation that happened, one thing I have to say is to not give all 100% of your love away so soon into the relationship as if you give this love away so fast, you are somewhat giving your power and confidence away with it, you must keep some form of love for yourself, even if it is a mere 20%

Also you have to think of why you have feelings and maybe love for this person, what is it that makes you feel good inside and are you just finding a partner to take care of you to dull away the inner pain you are having within yourself with your own insecurities or are you merely just finding a mate to share your life with, this being just for love and for companionship?

Always think constantly of the Religious aspect, think of what Allah (SWT) may be granting you and for what reason(s) you are receiving this from Him. (Pray daily to Allah (SWT) for Guidance)

Most of my past relationships before becoming a Practicing Muslim had been to help me be accepted by someone, if anyone actually, this being to give me the unconditional acceptance that my parents gave to me, but of course in a slightly different way, most women find a man who was like their father, and alike is too the man trying to find a partner who is so like to their mother, this being in all the safety and security that their parents bestowed upon them when they were growing up, Allah (SWT) Grants you this kind of mate.

All we want and need from our partners are a sense of inner peace and tranquillity knowing that we are going to be always looked after and accepted for whatever we become and do with ourselves, acceptance is the most strongest part of our daily lives as Humans...to be accepted, now think of this as you would being a Muslim, now what does this tell you? Acceptance comes directly from Allah (SWT) He is the one who Grants you that and He alone allows whomever He wants to be given this.

Allah (SWT) has control over all things upon this Earth of His and if you do not feel accepted, then maybe you are looking in the wrong place and for the wrong reasons, I have found that the first place to look is within your own heart and try to find forgiveness within your own self as well, as we are always so hard on ourselves all of the time, it is okay to reflect, but do not curse.

Always remember that in life things are not always what they seem to be and just because they are not going your way that does not mean that the overall outlook of it will not end up in your favour or visa versa.

Patience is a fine thing to have in Islam and I beckon you all to find it within your own heart to always be patient within all that you do, think and feel, Pray for this from Allah. (SWT)

Being single does not mean that you are a nerd and that you are an ugly person who has nothing to offer the world, far from it, as to me, this means that you are a very strong individual who can do all things prescribed by Allah (SWT) and that you are not reliant upon anything nor anyone except on Allah, (SWT) you have all your emotions and self preservations intact all thanks go to Allah. (SWT)

You should feel very proud of yourself for always being able to find an answer within your own self through Allah (SWT) and not relying on others to do things and make decisions for you, which is what usually happens when with someone.

Being alone and being lonely are two very different situations and you must think about the differences in each and how they reflect upon you and your lifestyle and importantly your personal goals in your life.

It is encouraged within Islam to find a suitable mate who will be right for you in Marriage, as Allah (SWT) welcomes marriage and it is looked upon in Islam as a very big Sunnah (Blessing) and you will gain many rewards indeed for being married and supporting each other as a family unit.

Loving someone and being in love with someone is also very different in its meanings, take time out to think of what this person does for you, not meaning of what physical and material things they do for you only, but what do they do for your heart, your mind, your surroundings, your future, are they compatible with you, are they pleasing to the eye, do they smell right, do they treat you righteously, do they offer you gifts, do they complement you for no other reason then "just because" and what do they do for your Iman?

Having someone as a loved one in your life should be as an added part of it, it should not be there to fill in a void within you for a fear that you have either held in you or a fear of rejection that you have created, just so long as you love Allah (SWT) all will be okay.

Trust Allah (SWT) alone and trust the time He prescribes for things to happen between you both and if it does not happen, do not feel sad or that you were not good enough, as you have what it takes to take on anything at any time, as Allah (SWT) always Grants you the tools necessary to overcome anything, whether it be grief, lost love, heartache, lost limbs, lost family and even lost faith (Iman) in Allah (SWT) Himself, He will always Provide for His Servants, Insha Allah, Ameen.

I have learned such a big lesson in “Patience in Time Keeping” as I have never prided myself in this field, as I could never imagine writing to a person for over a month, let alone an entire two years and four months with only having met her and been within her company (In a physical sense) for only one short month in that timeframe.

But through Allah's (SWT) Will and Devine Guidance I have found the strength to do so and I feel so blessed to know that my Wife has the same faith in me in continuing her quest for love and for a lasting relationship with me in marriage.

You are aloud to feel sadness as well as a certain amount of jealousy but you must restrain it the best you can and not get angry on the other person(s) for what choices they make, for they also are doing what comes from their hearts and what feels right.

Jealousy is a healthy emotion to have in you, just so long as you and your partner talk often of your love for each other, nothing will ever have to come from that jealous feeling within yourself.

Happiness will always prevail in the end of sadness you feel at any given time, this is a built in sensation of which Allah (SWT) has given to us, almost like a survival tactic deep within us all, it will edge a peaceful and happy thought of which will bridge the gap of a broken heart.

Not everything you think and do will be what others choose to think and do with their own lives.

Please just take it slowly and leave them to make their own choices on things, they will know what is the right path to take, as you too will in time to come, just remember that the path is sometimes hard and narrow to walk on, but this does not mean that it is not the right path, this only means that it will be a little harder to walk upon, as things are not always given with open arms and total blessings enwrapped, you sometimes have to work for them and believe me when I say…you will feel so warm inside yourself for making that extra effort in doing so.

Insha Allah you all will be Granted the perfect Muslim partner, as I have been, one who will always give you all that you have Dreamed and Prayed for all through your life, just be patient and if they do not come your way, do not despair, for Allah (SWT) knows everything and He will have something planned for you to be happier with.

Take in all the wisdom that your partner offers you and always be so very thankful unto them for sharing the words of Islam and of our Beloved Allah, (SWT) also teach them what you know, do not hold back what you know, for it is a Sunnah if you help one another in each and every way you can, just so long as it comes from your heart and it is not done for the sole purpose of gaining Blessings from Allah. (SWT)

Remember, people tend to treat their friends far better then their loved ones, it is all too common a fact that we do this to our loved ones in assuming that they will cop the slack on the bad times, but when we need someone to rubbish and vent at, we treat our friends with more respect and dignity then we do to our loving partner.

If you can try to change this and balance it out upon both parties, so that both your most treasured loving Wife/Husband and your most closed Friends get to have a balance of both feelings, but to keep your anger/frustrations to oneself is also a Sunnah. (Practice this)

If you are single, enjoy all the benefits that come from it, like personal freedom and decisions being made by you without being remarked upon in maybe a negative manner by others.

As for Fatherhood, all I can give toward the cause is for you as a new Parent to always remain patient and never let your anger out onto your family; if there is anything to be sorted between either yourself and your Wife and/or between yourself and your child, take things slowly; asses the situation, be understanding toward their needs and remember that your Marriage issues are not with your child, so leave them out of it; never for a moment cause despair and argument in from of your siblings; go elsewhere for that; this way your children will forever experience love from you.

Please make sure that you plan for your child and by any gift of Allah (SWT) you receive a child sooner then you anticipated, do not despair, just put your love into your Marriage and into your new born child, they deserve nothing less, no one is to blame here, this is life so buckle down and life it as best as you are ordained to as Allah (SWT) loves those whom respect the laws of Islam and those whom never backlash what is to and has been bestowed upon them, as Allah (SWT) knows best in all cases, Ameen.

I was blessed with being able to watch as my Son Ilyas Salim Butler was entering into this World, what a most beautiful site, to see just what my loving and forever loyal Wife had just gone through was outstanding indeed, may Allah (SWT) bless her and give to her Jannah for her efforts both in pregnancy, giving birth and in the upbringing of our Son, Ameen; My Wife and Mother are my Heroes.

For a Father (Abah) it can be rather hard finding whom you are after a child has emerged into your life, you may seem like you have been pushed aside in the mad rush to have your Wife and child seen in the limelight, but this really is not the case, you as a Father have a huge part in all that is happening and on what is to happen within your family’s future, so whilst Mother (Ummi) is taking great care of your little treasure of a child, make constant Dua and work hard to help keep your current situation stable more blessed and never have any regrets as Allah (SWT) knows best on whom can handle what is granted to them and whom cannot.

At first I had no patience on what to do with my Son and when he and I were left alone, I would not know how to communicate with him and whenever he cried, I would shout and shake him, due to not knowing what to do, Astagfirullah; but through utter honesty and dedication to Allah (SWT) alone I was brought through the void between both myself and little Ilyas and all of a sudden there is a bond that is overpowering, you just cannot ignore; All praises go unto Allah (SWT) for He is all aware of what you wish of your children.

I look into my Son’s eyes and I see pureness and total reliance toward myself, I feel warmth, I then drift off into the world before I knew right from wrong and I see my loving Parents looking upon me, oh how I adore them both and what hardship they had endured through bringing up five children, I then feel my Son’s hand touch my face, I look at his love and forgiveness toward me; to which I feel an utter respect toward that little man looking so curiously at me; I will do all I can to be there for my Wife and Son forever, Ameen.

Most Importantly...PRAY ALWAYS TO ALLAH (SWT) ALONE.

“Always Base Your Life Around Your Religion And Not Your Religion Around Your Life”

Jazaallah Khair

Salim Muhammad Bilal Butler (Kiwi Muslim Revert)

Clear_Water@xtra.co.nz

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